Supernatural Woman: Drama

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In my last post, I shared how I received a negative doctor’s report during my pregnancy and how I was able to remain positive despite the glaring concerns of my doctor. My doctor also had additional concerns, for my first pregnancy I had a cesarean section after being induced, being in labor for over 12 hours, and making it to 8 centimeters dilated. It was a highly unpleasant experience, apparently, the doctor was impatient. I was very week afterward and my daughter was placed in the NICU while she was totally fine. I was not cleared to eat solids until about two days later and the food was horrible, plus we stayed in the hospital for an extended time as there were concerns about my blood pressure. Needless to say, it was a traumatic experience for me; it was the birth of my first child plus my husband was not there. 

For my second pregnancy, I definitely needed a better experience! I prayed and did my research before selecting a doctor and delivery hospital. Thankfully, my doctor allowed me to try for a vaginal birth if I went into labor naturally and if I agreed to get an epidural. From experience, a good number of doctors are not willing to take that risk. For my third pregnancy, my doctor was apprehensive and told me that if I did not go into labor by a certain day, I was going to get scheduled for a c-section. I was not having it, I did not want history to repeat itself! I kept quiet in her presence but went to war with God’s Word in my secret place. 

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Besides the physical changes and doctor’s reports, some other changes were going on within me and around me. Being overwhelmed was quite the norm during that time; work coupled with the demands of marriage, motherhood, and ministry had me at my wit’s end. In April 2019, for some odd reason, I started to dislike my job. I initially loved it and was looking forward to growing in the company but ‘something’ was off. 

About a month or two prior, my supervisor reached out to me and asked how things were going and practically begged me not to quit. I was surprised because I had no complaints, I assured her that I was not going anywhere and told her that I was glad to finally be doing something in my field as compared to my previous employment. I mentioned how toxic the work environment was there and her facial expression was told an interesting story, as she stated that things weren’t always perfect but people were able to make up and move on. She kept emphasizing “cover-your-own-butt” she would say CYOB for short, which I later discovered that it meant to look out for yourself and throw others under the bus when needed. Hmm…If I only knew what was ahead of me.

A few weeks before that meeting with my supervisor, I got a call from someone that I had interviewed with for another position a while ago. I applied for an entry-level position but she was so impressed and she asked me to come back for a second interview with her boss for a management position. After the interview, I was told that the job was mine and I’d be contacted for further steps. Days turned into weeks, at the end of the day things didn’t work out as the company experienced budget cuts and had to lay people off. When the current call came in, it was filled with good news as she had started a new position as the Vice President of another company and wanted to know if I was still looking for a job, she felt like I’d be the perfect fit. I politely declined and told her that I had started a new job and I’d been there for barely six months. She stated that she was happy for me and wished me well.

By June, I was the one reaching out to her asking if there was still an opportunity to work for her, as it seemed like all hell at broken loose at work. It seemed that my supervisor was nitpicking every little thing. An honest mistake was magnified as a big deal. Not only was I physically tired but I was emotionally drained. I would cry, get really upset, drag my feet to work daily, and do whatever it took to avoid dealing with my supervisor. She was also pregnant, so I would make excuses for her by blaming her actions on pregnancy hormones and I’d pray for her as God instructed me to. 

After a quarterly assessment of my department, I was indirectly asked to alter some information by a member of management, when I told her that I could not because it would not be true, I noticed that the heat was intensified. On paper, it looked like I was not doing a good job and the entire department’s numbers were not looking too good. After my performance review in July, I was told that my job was on the line, all the accusations against me were outrageous but I tried my best to keep calm and still have a positive attitude.

One day, while listening to a podcast as I pulled up to the parking lot of my office, the host mentioned “You losing your job may be God’s way of elevating you.” [I paraphase]. I started to shout as various thoughts flooded my mind: “God forbid!”, “That won’t happen to me!”, “My lot is maintained!”, I even added some tongues into the combination. I was not going to lose! I decided to intensify my job search and reach out to people in my network. But all attempts failed. 

One day in the month of August 2019, I arrived at the office very early and sat in the parking garage while listening to music. God laid it on my heart to pray for my supervisor and her mom as her mom was sick at the time. Naturally, I was not in the mood but I obeyed, after a few minutes, I was on my way to the building to ensure that I clocked in on time. I didn’t need any additional drama. As soon as I got to the office, my supervisor met me at my desk. It was surprising because she never came that early, she said she wanted to see me. I told her that I really needed to use the restroom (pregnancy bladder) and she jokingly stated that she understood as we were in the same boat. After using the restroom, I was headed to my supervisor’s desk when she stopped me and asked me to meet her in her boss’s office instead.

I noticed that the atmosphere was a bit tense and that my supervisor looked quite nervous but I didn’t think much of it. A few minutes later I was livid as I sat through her reading a document stating why they decided to terminate my employment. Many things were false or exaggerated, I was appalled. I was told to return all company property in my possession and exit the building.

I was five months pregnant with my third child, I was devastated, hurt, and confused as it appeared like my dreams of a successful career came crashing down. I sent a text to my husband, pastors, and family to tell them the news; they were all aware of the drama that I endured during the past few months. I needed encouragement, I needed prayers. I don’t know how I was able to make it home, I was lost in thought throughout my drive back home, I had so many questions. 

And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. Romans 8:28 NLT

God does not cause bad things to happen, but he causes all things to work together for our God.

He does not initiate the storm, but he never leaves us even in the midst of it.

He remains steadfast, his love never fails.

At times, he allows setbacks so we can wake up and step up our game

There are seasons of preparation where we must build capacity for the next level

Don’t despise your seasons, they have a cumulative effect

With God, you are guaranteed to end up at a great destination

Enjoy the journey, trust God to guide you into your wealthy place!

To be continued…

With lots of love,

– Bunmi Adebiyi

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