Dear Bunmi (part 4)

Howdy!!!

How are you today? Thanks for stopping by today. YOU ARE WELCOME!

I haven’t blogged in a while, life got busy and I felt overwhelmed…blogging was the least of my worries. Then I got discouraged, I wanted to throw in the towel. I just wasn’t happy with the lack of feedback that I was getting from my writing…I lost my confidence. I started writing as an instruction from God, some years ago he whispered to me “Bunmi, share your story, it will set people free…”  It was hard for me to digest initially but I came to terms with it, there was no point of running and attempting to hide. I went for it and I must say that I have no regrets, I thank God for the privilege to be a blessing.

On the journey of purpose, life will throw curve balls at you…things will happen, people will disappoint you, things won’t go as planned…instead of fighting, it appears easier to give in…but that is when to PUSH, it means that you’re on the verge of greatness. The pressure is necessary to break into greater levels, so hang on…it can only get better from here.

One of my greatest writing supporters went to be with the Lord a few months ago and I felt horrible about it…I cried and was heartbroken, I wished I would have reached out to her as much as she did to me…I wished I would have been there for her in her time of need…I wished I would have appreciated her more, prayed for her, got to know her more…urgh! Her death being just a few weeks after my uncle’s death took its toll on me…but that God for the comfort of his Spirit and having the right people to speak into your life and cover you in prayer in such times…I was able to come to peace with it all.

And then just last week, someone that I hadn’t spoken to in a while sends me a message about how she has been going through tough times and she decided to read my blog. Afterward, you felt better and believed that she will overcome the challenges that she is facing. Moments like this will give you a wake-up call…you will truly understand that your life is truly not about YOU…hibernating in your feelings won’t get you too far! I guess that was the motivation that I needed…so here we are…enjoy today’s blog post!!!

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In today’s post, I continue the Dear Bunmi series. It is a series that addresses myself at various stages in my life in retrospect.  The aim of this series is to encourage people going through similar issues and phases. It is a reminder that tough times don’t last. It is not over until it is good! You either win or learn!

The beautiful thing about God is that it doesn’t matter where you’ve been; with him, it only matters where you’re going. Every single day presents you with a choice of direction, either God’s way or your way. The key is to walk with him long enough until his way becomes yours.

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Enjoy today’s new post below:

Dear Bunmi,

  Yay! You got into college! Despite your fears and much discouragement, you did it! Even when your guidance counselor told you not to apply to a certain school because your grades weren’t good enough…you still went for it. For the first time in forever, you did not allow an outside voice to affect you. Wow! Bunmi, you’re truly stronger than you think. You’re not average, you are exceptional! Keep that energy burning because, along this path of life, you will experience many obstacles, trails, challenges, and tribulations. What you believe and in whom you believe will determine whether you lose or win. There is a battle over your life, you won’t have to fight if you choose the winning team. The captain of the winning team is JESUS.

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It is the summertime, you have a couple of weeks before you begin a mandatory introductory program at your new school. It seems like it is the beginning of the rest of your life. Critical decisions must be made…you must leave your comfort zone…move away from home…a new chapter in the book of your life. Mixed feelings envelop you, it is bittersweet…excited and terrifying! You’re looking forward to all the experiences of the college life that you’ve dreamt of. You want to find out it what is depicted on TV is real…studying hard and partying hard…meeting new people and finding true love.

You went through high school without being in a “real’ relationship…you had something, but your heart was broken when you discovered that it was all a façade. Your dream of marrying your High School sweetheart was crushed! And you can’t figure out what’s worse, your first heartbreak or the fact that he left without saying a word, no reasons…he just ignored you…stopped answering your phones, etc. I understand your pain, but it wasn’t love. Love is patient, kind, pure, genuine…it never fails…it doesn’t hurt…so don’t be discouraged; true love will come in due time.

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So, you got a new job for the summer…thanks to one of your favorite aunt’s referral. It is not your ideal job (whatever that means), but hey working at a pharmacy is better than working at a fast-food restaurant! You’ll get the hang of it, meet new people, learn new things and much more. Make the best of it! Every stop along your life’s journey has a purpose…it may not make sense for some time, but nothing is coincidental…aim to discover and understand the reason for each season, embrace it, learn from it and grow through it.

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Hmm…you met this guy…he isn’t your type, but he keeps coming around…he is available…he adores you…he is so persistent…he is kinda funny also…his sense of humor makes up for his lack of fashion sense and his accent…he won’t take no for an answer, so you give him a chance. Rebound? Or Desperation? He is Nigerian- like born and raised, he recently crossed the borders…you feel like you could help to refine him…your mom also thought he was cool after his initial visit…until she found out that he became more than a friend…everything went downhill from there.

You know when they say, “Momma is always right?” Well, in this case, it is true. It will take you a while to accept this fact because deep down inside you know something isn’t right, but you keep pushing that feeling aside. The thought of someone being “in love” with you thrills you! Someone who isn’t ashamed to show you off to the world!

However, you will learn in the future to trust your intuition, it will save you from a lot of disappointments. Deciding to be in a relationship with another person is major; it shouldn’t be a decision that is taken lightly. Your decision shouldn’t be based on feelings and assumptions, instead, it should be based on your vision for your life. Can you see a future with him? Does his potential motivate you to be a better you? Or do you feel like a babysitter when you’re around him? STOP AND THINK!