Hello Fam! How are you all doing today?
Hello April!!! Hello S*P*R*I*N*G!!!
I hope you all had a great Easter Celebration!!! Easter was great over here, church was a blast! After church, we came home, ate, chilled, took naps, and did some activities with the children. Let me tell you! I ate some great food all weekend, my so-called diet was abolished! We went to visit a member of our church and we were treated to a feast! I also catered the majority of our Easter Dinner, I only made baked whole chicken and fish. The leftovers in the refrigerator keep calling my name, I’ve been postponing my answer, I had yogurt and granola for breakfast, I am praying that I can keep it healthy for the rest of the day. Hahahaaaaa who am I kidding!!! Overcoming my foodie tendencies has been tough, I’ve just been taking it a day at a time. Incorporating healthy foods here and there and keeping up with my exercises five times a week. Fam, pray for your girl! The struggle for my waistline is real!
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Like I said in a previous post about parenting and structure:
So when days get hard and random unscheduled things occur, and throw you off your routine schedule look to God, the perfect parent and he will guide you even when it doesn’t make sense.
I haven’t done a lifestyle update lately, so here it is! My job as a home school mom ended officially two weeks ago, my first two daughters stopped virtual school and went back to school in person; while the baby is still home with me for now. The transitioning has been a bit tough to adjust to. A few days before their resumption, daylight savings began and we ‘lost an hour’. Bedtime was challenging, they kept asking why they had to go to bed while the sun was still out. We are finally getting a hang of our bedtime routine again. My routine has also changed, I have to work around their new schedules. I no longer have two hours to myself before everyone wakes up as the girls have to be at school by 7:10 am. Also, my second daughter only goes to school for half a day, so I have to do multiple school runs a day. It has been interesting, but I am glad that they get to see their teachers and classmates in person, they both love going to school.
I had to go back to the drawing board and prayerfully plan how to make the best of this season. Things have definitely gotten better! I’m still wondering why they come home hyper though, I assumed that after being at school for a good part of the day, they’ll come home exhausted and want to go to bed immediately. FALSE, my second daughter comes home and talks until it is bedtime. One day, I caught myself alternating between “Wow!”, “Uh uh”, and “Really?” At one point I had to backtrack and ensure that I was not agreeing to anything wrong, it was hilarious. The baby just likes to soak up all my attention, she follows me everywhere and is very clingy. Today, she did something funny, she grabbed my wig and handed it to me while saying “take…take” I don’t blame her, my wig braids are a mess!
All in all, my goal this year is to have fun amid the busyness! Before the children went back to school, we took them to the aquarium as it was spring break; even though we had to attend a virtual conference and I had a speaking engagement later that day. The aquarium was very crowded since Texas has fully re-opened. I was no longer used to being around so many people after being on lockdown for about a year, it seemed like everyone was tired of being stuck at home. We did not stay for as long we planned because the lines for most activities were too long. Afterward, we went out for some yummy deserts then I had to rush home and get ready for my ministration. The next day was Sunday, so we spent the rest of the evening preparing for church.
I am learning to embrace the journey because I know that they won’t be this age forever! I want to be present and available to create lifelong memories for my children.
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That’s enough about parenting!
For folks in this part of the world, Spring has started! It ushers in a new season, the weather gets warmer, and the days seem shorter. It is also the start of the second quarter of the year, it is always a time of reflection and reevaluation for me. I make sure that I am on track with my goals and make adjustments accordingly.
Recently, after doing some “internal spring cleaning” I realized something that I used to do unconsciously. If you have been an avid reader of this blog for some time, you’ll know that in the past I was a perfectionist who was hard on myself. If a thing did not go as planned, then it was not perfect, and if it was not perfect, it was not good enough.
I did not know that way of thinking had crept into other areas of my life. It is like I had an epiphany! I started going over certain instances and realized that I was not good at accepting compliments. My husband would mention it from time to time but I’d brush it off as I thought those times were isolated events. After replaying those events in my mind, I noticed that every time someone complimented me, I would change the subject, say something to downgrade their comments or find a way to escape and focus on something else. It became more apparent recently when I was offered a big opportunity and I instantly panicked and tried to talk myself out of it. I felt like I wasn’t qualified as some other areas of my life are pending desired results. God spoke to me and told me to nip it in the bud. I saw that as a reflection of God, I ought to be confident in whose I am.
When I truly take my place, my positioning is attractive. Royalty can not be disregarded. Now, this does not mean, I should let the compliments of people get to my head. There has to be a balance, ultimately I live to please the ONE, my father in heaven is the center of my focus; he is the epitome of my goals. In an attempt to remain humble, I became extreme and missed opportunities for the God in me to be glorified. Being my true authentic self is not about selfish ambition, it is about pointing people to God. Even in the seemingly mundane things, such as the way I speak, carry myself, or dress. I am an ambassador, I am on my kingdom assignment! So when people are genuinely attracted to these things, it is an opportunity to point them to my source.
As God spoke to my heart, he also warned me about the temptation for people to soak up all the accolades of people yet live below his plan for your life. He said many people are out there doing what people consider to be big things, yet they have not scratched the surface of what he has predestined. So they get stuck in the comfort zone with inflated egos and achievements that do not hold eternal weight. Checking things off their superficial lists, yet not making progress in their destinies. I understood the balance. Fame is part of the package, we ought to have it but we should never let it rule us!
I felt led to share, I believe that one of the results of my internal spring cleaning is a Word for someone! I encourage you to also do some spring cleaning, and plan to make this new quarter great!
Have a blessed month of April and second quarter of the year!
Have you been doing some spring cleaning? What do you plan to get rid of? Share in the comment section below!
With lots of love,
– Bunmi Adebiyi
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