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In today’s post, I continue the Dear Bunmi series. It is a series that addresses myself at various stages in my life in retrospect. The aim of this series is to encourage people going through similar issues and phases. It is a reminder that tough times don’t last. It is not over until it is good! You either win or learn!
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Dear Bunmi,
I see your tears…the hurt, disappointment, confusion, and fears. You finally gave in to the pressure and it wasn’t what you expected. No, it was not worth it at all! The brokenness… it can’t be described in mere words…so you choose tears and inaudible sighs and moans. Now you wonder what exactly was all the hype about. Like losing a priceless treasure forever… a part of you, that can not be replaced…I understand.
Feel the pain but don’t allow it to settle in. It was a mistake, a very expensive mistake but it is not the end of the world. You can get past this and you will. In the culture that you grew up in, losing one’s virginity was celebrated. Your family’s Nigerian culture and religious beliefs told you otherwise. And you found yourself in the center of a conflict, you had cheerleaders encouraging you to go for it. But deep down inside, you knew it was a bad idea. Your desire to please and keep your man and fit in with your friends won but you felt like you ended up loosing at the end. Everyone moves on with their lives, yet you feel stuck in a moment of time; with uncertainty being your company.
Bunmi, true love waits, it is patient, kind, gentle and giving. What you need is true love, true love heals. And what you need is healing. If only you can catch a glimpse of your future, you’ll move forward expectantly. You are not your mistakes, forgiveness is available for you. While you’ve given up your virginity, you don’t have to lose your identity. In love, there is restoration… you can have much more than you feel like you’ve lost.
True love is not emotions and romantic walks at the park. True love is a person, true love is God. God loves without conditions, flaws and all. He doesn’t focus on the mistakes, he sees the real you… perfected in his image. Getting into a relationship with him is a rebirth, the old disappears and the new blooms. This is the way out of the misery and he awaits your acceptance of his love invitation. Your tears end here and your joy begins.
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In my book titled, “Lust is Blind” I share various personal experiences. I go into detail about how I lost my virginity and how that single decision haunted me for years until I finally accepted true love’s invitation. I experienced true freedom and discovered purpose, this can be you too. Have you been through hell? Have you carried around pains and burdens for years? Are your mistakes haunting you daily? Are you tired of the cycle of disappointment? ARE YOU READY TO BE FREE?!?!
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If you can relate to the things written above, I want you to know that I understand how you feel. It is okay, don’t feel bad. It is okay to be at that point now, but you don’t have to stay there. Confusion, doubt, shame, and depression do not have to be your companions; they’re the worse company to have. Breakup with those emotions and choose to be happy and free. You have the power to create the type of life that you’ve always desired. That power becomes activated when you make the decision to come into the right relationship with the right person.
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With lots of love,
– Bunmi Adebiyi
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